In His Circle

Embracing Fearlessness and Divine Guidance in Our Personal Journeys - Part 1 | Ep 11

• Tiffany Windsor • Episode 11

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The journey to fearlessness can begin not with a mighty roar, but with a whispered prayer. There, on the precipice of our deepest fears, we can find comfort in the divine guidance, even when the answers are not immediate. In our latest podcast, we bare our souls and share our personal stories about facing fear head-on and the solace found in God's providence. We discuss the tools we use to fight fear daily, inspiring our listeners to place their trust in God and embrace fearlessness in their faith.

In Part 1 of this two-part discussion on fear-less, Mary discusses her personal journey of overcoming fear and living fearlessly, providing  valuable insights into the nature of fear, its different forms, and how it can impede our growth. The importance of a robust support system and seeking divine guidance in our journey to fearlessness becomes the cornerstone of our conversation. As we delve deeper into our discussion, remember to live fearlessly, and join our community at periwinklepomegranate.com for additional resources and support. Thank you for joining our conversation, and may you have a blessed day.

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Announcer:

Welcome to In His Hands podcast from Women for Women. We're here to help you find peace in knowing you are in God's hands. Our goal is sharing the Word of God in simple conversations. You're here to help you thrive every day. And now here are your hosts.

Tiffany Windsor:

Good morning. I'm Tiffany Windsor and I'm Mary Mary. Today we want to talk about being fearless, but may I ask you to pray us in first.

Mary Koning:

Yes, in Timothy, god has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and sound mind. And, lord, we just ask all of those things of you power, love and a sound mind and it doesn't come from us, it comes from you, and we acknowledge that all good things come from you. You're our Father, who provides those things. We're thankful that you do. I confess that I sometimes make you small to fit into my vision of what you aren't doing or how you're not answering my prayers, but that's not true. So I speak against that lie and we come with supplication for you to provide all those things for us as wise women of faith, and we ask all of this in your precious son Jesus, his name, amen, amen, thank you. I love that this podcast is on a platform called Audacity, because it's audacious for us to sit here and talk about these things.

Tiffany Windsor:

I know. Yesterday I spent some time because we're recording ahead, so I had to go back to see where we were and what's airing and such, and it was so interesting just to see the strength of the topics that we've been talking about over these weeks. I'm very excited about everything that we have to say and that we're willing to share, because what I'm finding is, as women especially, we may not always speak up when we should. That's just an unfolding for me and I wanted to share that.

Mary Koning:

I think that's on point with what Pastor said today about what's our assignment for today. What's the assignment? It's interesting that we have these talks on Sunday after church and hearing the message about praying is a two-way dialogue, so asking and then hearing. I have to ask in part down, but not so much the hearing.

Tiffany Windsor:

It's difficult to trust and listening. What we also have to remember is we may not get answers right away and in the moment we may be looking for an answer. I need to know right away what I should do. I think that's a muscle that you build up. The more we pray, the more that our prayers will be answered. What I love today that I heard was pray first. Pray first. And again this ties in with fear and fearlessness, because if we go into prayer first, I think that helps to write our thinking. Fear can be such a dark space and this restrictive space of not wanting to move and prayer moves you. So it's not comfortable all the time, but it's where we should start Pray first, listen and move past the fear.

Mary Koning:

That is so, wise wise woman, and you've also given me advice when I've paralyzed with fear is just go do something. And the doing of something with my hands cleaning something, packing something freeze my brain. I'd re listened to our wise woman talk and I hardly recognize her and that is so exciting to me. And I'm trying to go back through my journal, my journal, every day to see what my headspace was back then and what happened in the meantime, and then re listening so that I can help myself and maybe help somebody else. And what I found was that community we had dinner with a sweet friend and she had also advised me that time. We had dinner with her, but also a time before, and she made a motion. It's her flat hand and a fist of the other hand coming strong. That hand motion went along with.

Mary Koning:

God has to do this. It's too big, it's too hard for me, it's too big and too hard and God will do it. And he did. He did. But not only did he do that, it was something with finances and the ex who is problematic, and money, and money feels hard these days just because it's a trust journey and a fear journey that the Lord's walking me through. But he did. God showed up for me, and so I made a list back at that time when I was in fear, of all the things that I was fearful about and how God is answering them, and that is exercise and trust, and that God shows up and hello, he hears and answers prayers.

Tiffany Windsor:

And I know this but I forget it.

Tiffany Windsor:

Here's what I loved about what you just said is going back and listening to our Wise Woman podcast and realizing the growth that you have gone through. So I started working on an easing. I want to have some sort of monthly or bimonthly communication with everyone and there's not enough time in our podcast that when we have nine minutes, 10 minutes, 14 minutes, that's by our choice of how long we talk about these topics. So I started going through and trying to decide what it is that I wanted to talk about. So I've been going back and listening to our podcasts and as I was trying to write the introduction to the first easing, I went back to remember how we started and I'm calling him our driveway chats, For whatever reason, the Lord told us we needed to go out and buy this equipment so we could start recording those chats.

Tiffany Windsor:

This has never been about how many people can we reach. We just had this drive to be able to talk and be fearless in our talking and be fearless in our growth, and so that's how that's reflecting for me today, because I was trying to find the words of how we started. I don't know how small the Lord or how large the Lord wants this to be this whole platform to be. I'm just listening and taking the steps and doing my work and so to come out with just the truth of we need to speak. That's how it all started.

Mary Koning:

And I would also like to hear again those tools that you're using and finding new ones for fearlessness, because to me, so much of what I do requires me to step out onto thin air. And I just remember during the days, dark days, dark nights of the soul I used to call them during my divorce where I didn't have a job and I didn't know what roof was going to be over my head and where was it going to house the kids, I felt like I was windmilling, my hands and arms were just windmilling and I was like falling out of an airplane with no parachute and the Lord's like, just stand, can you just stand? Because you're actually on the solid ground, you're on my firm foundation. I'm like, oh, why does it feel like falling? Well, it's because I'm looking at all around me instead of looking at the source and the provider of everything. And he did. And so, even though I knew all that, before the podcast on wise women, I had forgotten so dear one it's okay to forget, but you also need to remember.

Tiffany Windsor:

But we do need to strengthen that memory muscle and I'll have to look at my notes from today because I'm pretty sure pastor talked about that to go to the Lord first as opposed to going to the fear first. A lot of times then you forget the fear, not forget what you're supposed to. You're talking about forgetting. We need to forget the fear.

Mary Koning:

Oh, that's so good, but the fear leaves the impression, the imprint, and it's not even an actual thing. It is the made up, the fear of what could happen, what might happen and never happens. I find myself not revisiting, doing the process of did that fear happen? Where did it come from? Where's the source? Another good friend has taught me about taking those thoughts captive, where I thought we'll shoot across our bow like a missile and we're like, oh nope, not going to let that one land and we use our weaponry right, Our songs of worship and calling a friend and praying and doing something else, rather than sitting in the fear.

Tiffany Windsor:

I have found for me, since I found my strength in the Lord, that I am constantly praying. It's so helpful, especially with all of the news that's going on, everything that's out in the world, and what, of course, are they trying to do? They they're trying to have you go into fear based on news that may or may not be accurate, that may or may not happen, and, as you were just talking, I was just thinking about that because I used to spend a lot more time paying attention to what's going on in the news and I'm finding that, once I've switched myself over to having the Lord lead me, I don't need all of that news because the Lord has my back. I don't want it to sound cliche, but I need to spend my time focusing and listening to the Lord and move past the fear-mongering that our outside world is trying to put on us to pull us away from our moments of prayer. I don't know, is that simplifying it too much? I think that's beautiful.

Mary Koning:

During a recovery group I was a part of for many years to just sort through the manipulation and false realities that I was dealing with, there was a few moments of a bell gong to my heart, this bell ringing truth, and that's just what I feel when I'm with you and you're speaking truth. Is it just rings true? There's that saying, but it echoes in my soul and my heart and I know it's true. And those moments are so much easier for me to grab and hang on to. And one of them that reminds me of something you heard was that the Lord will take care of you, and I think that was part of the Wise Women Podcast as well is that you knew that truth and you strapped it on, and that's the one you wear versus your fear backpack.

Tiffany Windsor:

Exactly, and it's so hard for me because I tend to speak my truth. In past years, my sisters would get very upset with me because they didn't always want to hear what I had to say and it's like I can't stop myself, as I was telling you this morning. It's like that's why I don't have many friends, because people don't want to hear the truth, whether it's coming from the little tidbits I get or even coming from someone else. It's so hard because they get stuck in fear and it's so sad to me to see how they're not living their lives and just as this repeat, it is this film that's on repeat after repeat and they experience the same things in their lives over and over again. If we don't move and grow past those moments, it's going to keep on repeat and I can tell you you can move past that and it's okay. It may be scary, it may be ups and downs, but you will make it through it and I don't know how to comfort people. It's not up to me to comfort. The Lord will put words into my mouth to try to explain to you and to bring you comfort. I just encourage you to.

Tiffany Windsor:

In the moment that that fear pops up, grab another thought. That's the toolbox. We keep talking about toolboxes. It's either having scripture to turn to. It's the mantra that I did for many years before I became a Christian, which was cancel clear, bless the fear, choose again, choose God. You have to be able to turn off the noise. What radio station are you on? Change the station in your mind to God and not to the fear station.

Mary Koning:

I love that and the verses take every thought captive and sometimes that's just not enough. What's really helped me lately is the hand motion, the fist on an open palm, like God has to do that, and I'm a teacher and sometimes the kids will see me saying that and I'm like, no, I'm taking every thought captive and they're like, oh, they're little still and they act before they think.

Tiffany Windsor:

Mary, since we are running out of time today, let's go ahead and wrap up and come back next week with part two of Fearless.

Mary Koning:

That sounds wonderful and I encourage you to Fearless my sweet sisters.

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